We are first and foremost human. We have the right to be ourselves, to love ourselves, and to make mistakes.
We then, play and become the roles that others put onto us and that we put onto others. We are pretty much defined by what others expect of us, how they see us and vice versa.
And thus sadly so, we lose sight of who we are...of being human, being just me. At the same time, we lose sight of who our loved one truly is.
We become unhappy and tired and frustrated.
Now,
How often do we hear parents saying to their son - "Don't cry, you are a boy!" So does this mean a "boy" cannot be human and cry when he feels sad?
How often do we feel angry, disappointed because our parents did what "parents" shouldn't do.
How often do we feel frustrated because our friends don't seem like how "friends" should be, our bosses don't act like "bosses", our spouses are not "spouses".
As I was growing up, I began to see how my parents were just like...everybody else. They make mistakes. At first, it was exasperating, annoying and sometimes maddening...because they have "stepped down from my pedestal as parents". But then one day, I realized, I understood and... I am free. Today I love them for who they are. Unmistakably human and like the rest of us.
It is in our own stereotyping, our expectations that become our source of unhappiness.
