Goal!

 

It’s wonderful to have goals in life! 

Now, the problem kicks in when we are too focused on them, too hasty and impatient to get there.  We will then become stressed out, frustrated, and disappointed easily.  Relax.  Once you’ve set your targets, learn to enjoy the journey to your destination.  Sure, there are hurdles but there are pleasant moments along the way too.  Experience each event one at a time.  After all, you’re already on the path – it’s just a matter of time before you reach your destination.

It’s like the jungle trekking holiday I’ve just been (something I’ve been cajoled into doing) – at the beginning, it felt so long and tiring because I was too absorbed in finishing the trek and getting back to the hotel for a nice hot bath…but as soon as I learned to take pleasure in each scenery, flower, plant and tree along the way, everything became so much more enjoyable (yes, blisters, scratches, bites and all!)…and before I knew it, I was already at the end of the trek.

Different Points of View

The same mountain on the way up looks different from the way down.  The route back to your house looks different from the route when leaving it.  In life, it’s important to look at matters from different points of view.

Huh, You Don't Like Me?!

Who doesn’t want to be well liked by everyone?  Funnily, those who get affected the most are those who usually think “highly” of themselves.  “I’m a kind person.  I’m nice to the people around me.  I’ve loads of friends and they all love me.  But why is this person different?  Why should anyone dislike me?”

The reality is, not everyone will…no matter how hard you try, even when you don’t know why, even when you believe that you have not done any wrong, even when you DID wrong and apologized wholeheartedly.  It just is and it’s ok.  Understand it, try your best to amend (if there’s a need), learn from it, but ultimately, accept it, (forgive yourself in some cases) and move on.

P.S. To those who say “they don’t care”: look deep down, you do.

P.P.S. And of course, to the rare ones who really don’t give a damn: you should. Who says you don’t need to change yourself for the better?  All this talk about “staying true to yourself and letting people love the real you” is not quite right.  True, you don’t want to lead your whole life based on what others feel or think about you, BUT part of growing up is being able to understand, sieve through what’s true and what’s not and sometimes what others think of you holds some truth to the real you.